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Marie Bryant's avatar

I've got two versions of this. They were indispensable a couple of years ago when my husband (who has mental health issues) was learning how to stop armoring and start identifying his feelings. We kept them on the coffee table for a whole year, easily accessible. He got to the point where he didn't need to reference them so often, then not at all. He's gotten pretty good at it!

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Laura L. Walsh, Psy.D.'s avatar

That's a great success story! Unfortunately, there's generations of boys raised without emotional granularity. They don't see the need. I think articulating one's mind is a form of ordering and gaining mastery. Kudos to your husband!

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Alan, aka DudeInMinnetonka's avatar

Did this originate from or was it featured in parent effectiveness training the book from my childhood?

Timeless truths

Do you in therapy use the phrase is it possible as a starting point?

That and the Nugget of knowledge that I learned in college

When you ask a question wait for the answer, those two eternal truths hold true as to achieving what you want AKA is it possible as the entry with the question stated and await the answer you seek.

It takes a prick factor to say no to is it possible

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Laura L. Walsh, Psy.D.'s avatar

I am not the creator and couldn’t find who was so it’s possible that it’s been around for a while. The phrase is in my toolbox but I’m more likely to say “I wonder if…”

You’ve gots some nuggets there. Especially the answer in the question one.

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Alan, aka DudeInMinnetonka's avatar

Parent effectiveness training is a terrific book if it's not on your radar it's timeless truth the different levels of retardation obfuscation blinders ineptitude and obtuse in humanity helps to Wade through.

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Laura L. Walsh, Psy.D.'s avatar

Sounds usefully intense.

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Alan, aka DudeInMinnetonka's avatar

Fun fact she was a cute 24-year-old African grad student who gave grades based on bedroom performance, I did not participate, she knew everything worldly about everything, she had a taste for Jewish boys from the Jewish fraternity... These nuggets of anecdotal truth to chuckle and learn from.

I bought motorcycles cars collectibles and stuff and waited 10 minutes before the buyer said okay to my offer

It's a power play and it also acknowledges others processing times

My seller's tip which may be interpreted in many ways I had the gumption at the moment to a hard guy who came by to buy a Moto guzzi of mine and he lowballed me, I paused for several minutes though I knew my answer immediately somehow which I never said before which was I don't think you'd be happy with it at any price and I showed him out

The bike quickly sold and he had to drive home pondering that bitch slap for perpetuity

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Laura L. Walsh, Psy.D.'s avatar

Your mind is very busy.

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Roman's avatar

If this sounds useful to you, take a moment to explore feelingswheel.app

It’s an interactive Feelings Wheel that makes it easier to explore and understand how you’re feeling.

I recently built it to help people tune into their emotions and express them more clearly.

There’s even a little AI magic to offer helpful recommendations along the way.

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Laura L. Walsh, Psy.D.'s avatar

That’s AWESOME!!! Well done!

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AHaikü4U's avatar

Thank You for posting

‘The Feelings Wheel”. So

Illuminative…💕

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